You have been in a relationship for a long time now but you somehow cannot get your man to propose marriage to you without looking desperate. Men and women often differ in their views about marriage. A lot of women believe they can get married when they meet the right man, while many men will only consider marriage when they are ready for it. If you feel you’re not getting any younger and you’re ready for marriage, you can initiate some steps to get a guy to propose
The do’s and don’ts while you tactfully lead him to propose to you
Don’t throw a tantrum by acting like a child. Don’t deprive him of something as a form of punishing him for his delayed proposal. You don’t want to twist his arm just to make him kneel down and pop the question.
Don’t make him choose.
Avoid offering him options from which he has to make a decision. You may be on the losing end if he stands by his decision not to get hitched just yet.
Don’t panic if it is not happening. Endear yourself to him to make him feel he’s lucky to have you and strengthen his desire to marry you.
Tell your boyfriend your inner feelings. Express your fears and anxieties about the setup you have with him. Tell him about your concerns for the future, and that you want to be assured you will be together as you face it. Speak your heart’s content to tell him that the relationship doesn’t assure you of permanency. If the guy really loves you, he will not allow you to keep feeling uncertain. Instead, he’ll do or say something to appease your troubled feelings, including a wedding proposal.
Deal with his decision.
If the guy reacts negatively, it only means one thing: He’s not ready for a commitment. He may truly and sincerely love you, but marriage is not among his priorities. Are you willing to continue the relationship? If you can’t, it’s time to ponder whether or not it’s worth waiting until the guy is ready to commit. When you decide to hang on, you can stage some well-crafted moves to help him realize your value as a lifetime partner who can make his life happier and more convenient.
How to get him to propose marriage to you before January
Act as the perfect girlfriend.
Let him see in you all the ideal qualities he’s looking for in a future wife.
Enjoy the company of your married friends.
Hang out with him together with your happily married friends, especially this mber months and on occasions when he can feel the importance of celebrating family ties. Let your friends help him appreciate marital life, encourage him and help him realize there’s nothing to fear about it.
Introduce him to your family.
Bring him to family affairs and introduce him to your relatives and friends. Make your family like him. The same is true when it’s your turn to meet his family. Both of you must feel welcome and comfortable happy in the company of each other’s families.
Talk about your future plans.
Tell him what your visions are to let him see that he is part of your long term plans. Talk about where you want to build your dream house, the kids you’re going to raise as a family, or where you want to spend your retirement days with him. Although this may not make him propose to you on the spot, he will realize you’re seeing the future as a couple.
Make him dependent on you.
Attend to his needs and look after his welfare. Make him realize he can’t do things without your help. It will further make him realize he’s a better man because of you. Regardless of how manly he is, he looks to you for stability and support. He’ll be at a loss if he lets you get away.
Let him feel insecure at times.
Make him feel very secured in your love. However, men often take it for granted, knowing their woman has undying love for them. Let him know there are other guys who are interested in you and would be happy to occupy his enviable position. This will effectively put into perspective for him that other guys stand a chance to take away his prized possession since the two of you have a non-committal relationship.
Live a life beyond him.Don’t allow your life to revolve around him to the extent of isolating yourself from the rest of the world. Have your own life separate from what you have with him. It’s a great way to imply that you can exist even without him and still be happy. Men find it satisfying to know that women are dependent on them for happiness, and thus, they take control in running the relationship and steering it to the direction they want.